So we're calling it 'The grand experiment' so that we can talk about it in public without blushing or getting unwanted attention. But it really comes down to getting laid. I don't really like the expression 'Polyamory' because it implies some kind of cliche,e jargon laden, lifestyle choice. I like to think of myself as having a life instead of a lifestyle. Besides, we're not looking for anyone else to move in, we're not looking for some kind of complicated-to-explain romantic triangle, or quadrangle, or octohedron. So I think 'Swinging' fits it better. Besides, it's got that Sinatra in the 50's, suburbia in the 70's feel which I much prefer.
But so far, it hasn't been a total success. I was putting off doing anything about it until after my tour with my band was over because I had too much to think about getting prepped for that. The wife, meanwhile, dives in with both feet. She gets laid while I'm out on the road. Now, I'm not jealous like 'Somebody is touching my wife!' jealous, but I'm jealous that she's getting action and I'm not. Being on tour might be sex and drugs for bands that have roadies, but when you're doing it all yourself, it's 70 percent driving, 10 percent moving equipment, 5 percent playing, then you've got that other 5 percent of the time to eat, have a couple beers, and sleep. Not much time for groupie banging (always assuming you've got groupies, which we assuredly don't) in there.
Anyway, my point is that she's had like four dates now, and even though only one has ended up with some nookie, I'm still twisting in the wind. It's in part due to the fact that a woman pretty much just has to announce that she's interested and she'll have guys sending her pictures of their junk in 10 minutes. Meanwhile, I have to find people that look cool, then send them a long explanation that I'm married, but I'm not a sleazebag, and I'm not looking to involve them in any drama. Sexy.
I really had high hopes for the Teacher. She emailed me back on the personals ad that we're using and we moved to reg email. She explained that whole open marriage thing freaked her out because she'd seen so many people use it as an excuse to end a relationship. I patiently explained to her that we are happy together and using this as a way to explore our sexuality, all the while peppering my emails with light jokes and showing interest in her. Couple of exchanges, then nothing. Argh.
What now?
